Everyone’s personality is different, and shapes their preference. This is the best specific way to work with me.
Last updated 2025-10-07
My style
- I believe that, no matter how reliable everything has been, planning for the future is raw conjecture. Appointments never work beyond a week or so, deadlines are always raw guesstimates, but nobody is allowed to say that. Therefore, I believe everyone should do their best, aim for better than sufficient, and let God decide the outcome.
- I am energized when I can vividly feel a large-scale grand scheme, and I enjoy distilling and dividing my experience into a tangible set of tasks I can visualize. When I don’t have that, I have a tendency to disassociate.
- I’m not the most observant, but if I do observe something, I tend to subconsciously link all aspects of meaning possible to it.
- Most of my insights come through teaching others, which I love to do when people want to learn.
- I do my best to learn from consequences, and become anxious if I feel I could have done better. If I’ve done my utmost, I tend to leave the past behind.
- I insist others around me become their best possible self, and dislike when people settle for less than they’re capable of.
- I’ve worked intimately with technology since I was 7 years old, and have scaled my skills with it. When I’m using a computer, I tend to forget everything and everyone else.
- To the degree I can control them, my habits are in a state of continuous improvement, and I’m always either maximizing my environment for efficiency or finding ways to automate tasks.
What I value
- I value openness, a positive attitude, integrity, curiosity, and focus.
- I want people to stand by their convictions to the degree they believe them.
- I expect associates to value open and healthy communication as much as me. I wish them to stay reasonably open to “third alternatives”.
- I insist absolutely everyone stays humble enough to accept utter failure. I also expect people to approach me about my failings before talking about me with others.
- I believe secrets are detrimental to group cohesion, and want everyone (including myself) to admit failures and move on. I also have no time for people who condemn those who tried. We’re all sinners, so get over yourself.
- I believe each thing is widely connected to many other things, but not always directly. Therefore, any success comes through balancing work, rest, recreation, energy, and spirituality. I also believe that why we succeed is more important than what we do.
- My personal spirituality is toward Jesus Christ. I reserve that discussion for its time and place, and have severe ideological issues with the narcissists who have infiltrated mainstream Christian culture. I’m happy to talk about it, but I’m not afraid to strongly disagree.
What I have no patience for
- I find oversimplified thinking without willingness to be corrected dangerous. It leads to false presumptions and deviates over time from truth. Some people are more correct than others, but foolishness demonstrates itself through dogmatic reductionism.
- I believe elaborate explanations, especially when filled with jargon, cloud the truth, and can be dangerous in the wrong time and place. Jargon is often a sign of inexperience, so I usually have trouble respecting “professionals” who use more jargon to explain their jargon.
- I see vagueness, running from ideas, ignoring painful things, and unexplained distrust as a type of misplaced fear. While fear can help detect risks, rational decision-making takes courage, and all cowardice is an inherent risk.
- I despise bigotry (disrespecting people for what they can’t control). Everyone was given a lot in life, and they made decisions with it, and they’ll suffer plenty of consequences without your shame or attitude adding to their burdens.
- Like the previous, I despise entitlement (venerating oneself for what they can’t control). You owe others more than whatever others owe you. God made you, your guardian(s) raised you, your teachers invested in you, your nation gave you an identity, your friends gave you connection, and your complaints are opportunities to find meaning. Stand exclusively on your earned authority and learn your place.
How to best communicate with me
- Trust me more than I look. 99.9% of the time I have noble intentions, obscured by a bristly personality and some high-functioning autism. That means I’m usually oblivious to high-context aspects of social behavior, but my early childhood exposure to narcissism trained to feel when someone is withholding or manufacturing information.
- I’m very low-context, and don’t follow implications, so I’m rarely offended and more often confused. However, I’m also more likely to offend. Give me straightforward information about any offense, preferably simply.
- Come to me with more than a problem. I love the brainstorming, and have the aptitude to process all of the information you’re sharing. Give me your theories on why that issue exists, where it may originate, resources that could help, and anything you feel may be relevant information. Discovering a problem is often a solo experience, but solving it rarely is.
- I live in the world of ideas, but I constantly associate it to practical implementations. To be sure I understand it, have examples ready to explain your high-concept thing.
How to help me
- I have a history of deeply analyzing everything, so materially irrelevant details sometimes discourage me. Remind me of the big picture if you feel I’ve veered off-topic.
- Inform me when I’m blunt or rude. I’m usually unaware and will promptly change it.
- Be honest and open with me. I can take your direct statements, but I am unable to work with your silence.
What people misunderstand about me
- One of my favorite axioms is “slow is smooth, smooth is steady, steady is fast.” I will effectively do nothing for a time, then get decent at something, then fearlessly do something that may appear to be reckless to some. It’s not reckless: I’m just a fast learner.
- For some reason, I have always had an incessant awareness of the impending death that awaits us all. I’m no longer anxious about it, but it still permeates throughout my work and presence. The natural results of that perspective is that I’ll see everyone’s feelings and problems as petty (myself included).
- I’m an introvert who looks like an extrovert. Give me a few minutes to realign, and I’ll respond with full attention.
- I tend to have an optimistic and encouraging mindset, but I frame it in the worst possible way. My attitude is usually framed as “it could be much worse” and my affirmations tend to frame as “you’re not as bad as other things”.
- While I speak with conviction, I’m usually not set in my thinking, and don’t have much emotional attachment to what I know. If you give me facts that prove me wrong, I’ll promptly change my views and speak with a new contrasting conviction.
- My mind and body usually run on different wavelengths, and I have 2-5 other thoughts competing with the world around me. My response is probably to something derived from what you said and not you directly.
- I’m great at fixing problems and crises, but not very skilled emotionally.