Everyone’s personality is different, and shapes their preference. This is the best specific way to work with me.
Last updated 2025-10-07
My style
- I believe that, no matter how reliable everything has been, planning for the future is raw conjecture. While nobody says it, appointments never work beyond about a week ahead. Further, every deadline is either obsessing over constraints or raw guesstimates. Therefore, I believe everyone should do their best, aim for better than sufficient, and let God decide the outcome.
- I feel energized when I can identify connection with a large-scale endeavor. I enjoy distilling and dividing my experience into a tangible set of tasks I can visualize. When I don’t have that, I have a tendency to disassociate.
- While I’m not the most observant, I subconsciously associate every observation I make with all possible aspects of meaning.
- Most of my insights come through teaching others, which I love to do when people want to learn.
- I do my best to learn from consequences, and become anxious if I feel I could have done better. If I’ve done my utmost, I tend to leave the past behind.
- I insist that others around me become their best possible self. I dislike when people settle for less than they’re capable of.
- I’ve worked intimately with technology since I was 7 years old, and have scaled my skills with it. When I’m using a computer, I tend to forget everything and everyone else.
- To the degree I can control my habits, I’m constantly trying to improve them. I’m always either maximizing my environment for efficiency or finding ways to automate tasks.
What I value
- I value openness, a positive attitude, integrity, curiosity, and focus.
- I want people to stand by their convictions to the degree they believe them.
- I expect associates to value open and healthy communication as much as me. I wish them to stay reasonably open to “third alternatives”.
- I insist absolutely everyone stays humble enough to accept utter failure. I also expect people to approach me about my failings before talking about me with others.
- I believe secrets are detrimental to group cohesion, and want everyone (including myself) to admit failures and move on. I also have no time for people who condemn those who tried. We’re all sinners, so get over yourself.
- I believe each thing widely connects with everything else, but not always directly. Therefore, any success comes through balancing work, rest, recreation, energy, and spirituality. I also believe that why we succeed is more important than what we do.
- My personal spirituality is toward Jesus Christ, but reserve that discussion for its time and place. I have severe issues with the narcissists who have infiltrated mainstream Christian culture. I’m happy to talk about it, but I probably disagree strongly and pedantically.
What I have no patience for
- To me, thoughts without humility are the most dangerous thing in existence. They lead to false presumptions and deviate over time from truth. Some people are more correct than others, but dogmatic reductionism demonstrates foolishness.
- I believe elaborate explanations, especially jargon-laden, cloud the truth, and can be dangerous in the wrong time and place. I usually don’t respect people who refuse to admit when they simply don’t know.
- I see vagueness, running from ideas, ignoring painful things, and unexplained distrust as a type of misplaced fear. While fear can help detect risks, rational decision-making takes courage, and all cowardice is an inherent risk.
- I despise bigotry (disrespecting people for what they can’t control). Nobody chose their origins, and they made decisions with it, and are reaping consequences. Shame and resentment added to that is utterly unnecessary.
- Like the previous, I despise entitlement (venerating oneself for what they can’t control). You owe others more than whatever others owe you. God made you, your guardian(s) raised you, your teachers invested in you, your nation gave you an identity, your friends gave you connection, and your complaints are opportunities to find meaning. Stand exclusively on your earned authority and learn your place.
How to best communicate with me
- Trust me more than I look. 99.9% of the time I have noble intentions, obscured by a bristly personality and some high-functioning autism. I’m usually oblivious to high-context social behavior, but I was exposed to perpetual narcissism as a child. My rejection-sensitive dysphoria can sense when someone is withholding or manufacturing information.
- I’m very low-context, and don’t follow implications. I often feel confused, but rarely offended. I’m also more likely to offend. Give me straightforward information about any offense, preferably simply.
- Come to me with more than a problem. I love the brainstorming, and have the aptitude to process all the information you’re sharing. Give me theories why that issue exists, it origination, resources that could help, and anything you feel may be relevant. Discovering an issue is typically a solo experience, but solving it rarely is.
- I live in the world of ideas, but I constantly associate it to practical implementations. To be sure I understand it, have examples ready to explain your high-concept thing.
How to help me
- I have a history of deeply analyzing everything, so materially irrelevant details sometimes discourage me. Remind me of the big picture if you feel I’ve veered off-topic.
- Inform me when I’m blunt or rude. I’m usually unaware and will promptly change it.
- Be honest and open with me. I can take your direct statements, but I am unable to work with your silence.
What people misunderstand about me
- One of my favorite axioms is “slow is smooth, smooth is steady, steady is fast.” I will do very little for a time, then get decent at something, then do something that may appear reckless. It’s not reckless: I’m just a fast learner.
- For some reason, I have always had an incessant awareness of the impending death that awaits us all. I’m no longer anxious about it, but it still permeates throughout my work and presence. The natural results of that perspective is that I’ll see everyone’s feelings and problems as petty (myself included).
- I’m an introvert who looks like an extrovert. Give me a few minutes to realign, and I’ll respond with full attention.
- I tend to have an optimistic and encouraging mindset, but I frame it in the worst possible way. My attitude is usually “it could be much worse”. My affirmations tend to be “you’re not as bad as other things”.
- I emotionally identify with perspectives to understanding them, so judging my feelings is misreading my actual opinions. My mind and body often run on different wavelengths. Beyond the current topic, I have 2-5 other thoughts competing with the world around me. My response is probably to something derived from what you said and not you directly.
- I speak with conviction, but my views are typically fluid. If you give me facts that prove me wrong, I’ll promptly change my views.
- I’m great at fixing problems and crises, but not very skilled emotionally.