PSYCHOLOGICAL STAGES OF UNEMPLOYMENT 1. shock (i.e., denial) 2. Jaded (anger prolonged) 3. Discouragement 4. Despair ## hardship test - me in a crisis or chaotic situation, I calm myself and focus on taking useful actions 5 i'm usually optimistic, i see difficulties as temporary and expect to overcome them 3 I can tolerate high levels of ambiguity and uncertainty about situations 1 I adapt quickly to new developments, I'm good at bouncing back from difficulties 4 I'm playful, I find humor in rough situations and can laugh at myself 3 I'm able to recover emotionally from losses and setbacks, I have friends I can talk with, I can express my feelings to others and ask for help, feelings of anger, loss, and discouragement don't last long 3 I feel self-confident, appreciate myself, and have a healthy concept of who I am 4 I'm curious, I ask questions, I want to know how things work, I like to try new ways of doing things 5 I learn valuable lessons from my experiences and the experiences of others 5 I'm good at solving problems, I can use analytical logic, be creative, or use practical common sense 5 I'm good at making things work well, I'm often asked to lead groups and projects 4 I'm very flexible, I feel comfortable with my paradoxical complexity, I'm optimistic and pessimistic, trusting and cautious, unselfish and selfish, and so forth 4 I'm always myself, but I've noticed that I'm different in different situations 3 I prefer to work without a written job description, I'm more effective when I'm free to do what I think is best in each situation 1 I "read" people well and trust my intuition 2 I'm a good listener, I have good empathy skills 4 I'm non-judgmental about others and adapt to people's different personality styles 2 I'm very durable, I hold up well during tough times, I have an independent spirit under my cooperative way of working with others 5 I've been made stronger and better by difficult experiences 5 I've converted misfortune into good luck and found benefits in bad experiences 3 71 80+ = very resilient 65-79 = above average resilience 50-65 = adequate resilience 40-50 = struggling <30 = seek help characteristics of resilience: - awareness - understanding that setbacks are a part of life - internal locus of control - strong problem-solving skills - having strong social connections - identifying as a survivor, not a victim - being able to ask for help TO DO GIVEN MY WEAKPOINTS: learn to trust my intuition tolerate uncertainty find humor in rough situations and learn to laugh at myself get friends I can talk with - celebrate recovery? be confident in what I think is best be non-judgmental about others, and adapt to people's different personality styles ## hardship test - Tori (speculated) in a crisis or chaotic situation, I calm myself and focus on taking useful actions 5 i'm usually optimistic, i see difficulties as temporary and expect to overcome them 1 I can tolerate high levels of ambiguity and uncertainty about situations 4 I adapt quickly to new developments, I'm good at bouncing back from difficulties 4 I'm playful, I find humor in rough situations and can laugh at myself 2 I'm able to recover emotionally from losses and setbacks, I have friends I can talk with, I can express my feelings to others and ask for help, feelings of anger, loss, and discouragement don't last long 1 I feel self-confident, appreciate myself, and have a healthy concept of who I am 1 I'm curious, I ask questions, I want to know how things work, I like to try new ways of doing things 5 I learn valuable lessons from my experiences and the experiences of others 5 I'm good at solving problems, I can use analytical logic, be creative, or use practical common sense 4 I'm good at making things work well, I'm often asked to lead groups and projects 1 I'm very flexible, I feel comfortable with my paradoxical complexity, I'm optimistic and pessimistic, trusting and cautious, unselfish and selfish, and so forth 2 I'm always myself, but I've noticed that I'm different in different situations 5 I prefer to work without a written job description, I'm more effective when I'm free to do what I think is best in each situation 4 I "read" people well and trust my intuition 5 I'm a good listener, I have good empathy skills 3 I'm non-judgmental about others and adapt to people's different personality styles 5 I'm very durable, I hold up well during tough times, I have an independent spirit under my cooperative way of working with others 2 I've been made stronger and better by difficult experiences 4 I've converted misfortune into good luck and found benefits in bad experiences 2 65 ## oswald chambers Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword?— Romans 8:35 God doesn’t promise to make us immune to trouble; God promises to be with us in trouble. It doesn’t matter what kind of trouble; even the most extreme hardship can never separate us from God. “In all these things we are more than conquerors” (Romans 8:37). The “things” Paul is talking about in this verse aren’t imaginary; they are desperately real. And yet, Paul says, in the middle of all our hardships, we are super-victors—not because of our intelligence or our courage, but because nothing can affect our relationship to God in Jesus Christ. Whether we like it or not, we are where we are, exactly in the condition we’re in. I am sorry for Christians who have nothing difficult in their circumstances. “Shall trouble . . . ?” Trouble is never a noble thing, but neither is it all-powerful. No trouble, says Paul, “will be able to separate us from the love of God” (v. 39). Let trouble be what it is. Let it be exhausting and irritating. But never let it separate you from the reality that God loves you. “Shall . . . hardship . . . ?” Can God’s love hold when everything around us seems to be saying that his love is a lie, and that there is no such thing as justice? “Shall . . . famine . . . ?” Can we not only believe in God’s love but be more than conquerors even when we are being starved? Either Jesus Christ is a deceiver and Paul is deluded, or something extraordinary happens to the soul who holds on to God’s love when the facts are against God’s character. “More than conquerors . . .” Logic is silenced in the face of Paul’s claim. Only one thing can account for what he says: the love of God in Christ Jesus. “Out of the wreck I rise,” every time.