I am waiting for my wife Tori to re-emerge with our children. Victor is now 8 years old and Mia is now 5.
- Tori and I had an argument that led to her calling the police. She disappeared and didn’t communicate where she or the kids are.
- I have heard absolutely nothing for the last 1 year and 3 months about their whereabouts or well-being. She has maintained maximum information control about absolutely everything.
- I have recently discovered she has severe delusions about reality, and has made grandiose falsehoods about me and our circumstances. I do believe she’s sincere about those beliefs, though.
- We bear the joint public shame of a fractured relationship and broken family. She has not had the courage to re-emerge to confront our present marital issues.
- If she’s like who I’ve known her to be in the past, she probably refuses to get mental help. Or, if she receives it, I expect her to blame everyone and everything except herself for all her decisions.
- Our family’s collective interests and my spiritual duty rests in me doing nothing for now about her actions. This serves against the shorter-term interests of Victor, Mia, and me. I am giving her the grace God has given me.
- If you do hear from her, I would deeply appreciate you reaching out to me before making a judgment. I’ve probably been scandalized farther than I’ll ever know this side of eternity.
I’m beginning a new career shift now, and we’ll see where God takes me.
In my free time, I’m working on several things:
- About 41 more essays when the spirit of the thing strikes me.
- 1,154 notes in my commonplacing
- 347 notes in my toolbox
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I’ve last updated this page on 2025-12-08.
This page is part of Derek Sivers’ /now movement. It keeps me accountable to the public, and forces me to rein in ambitions toward what’s next.