Everyone’s personality is different, and shapes their preference. This is the best specific way to work with me.
Last updated 2026-08-12
My style
- I believe that, no matter how reliable everything has been, planning for the future is raw conjecture because every deadline is either obsessing over constraints or raw guesstimates. Instead, everyone should do their best, aim for higher than sufficient (to protect against unknowable factors), and let God decide the outcome.
- I feel energized when I can identify connection with a clear, large-scale endeavor. In particular, I enjoy ordering and organizing tasks. But, I tend to dissociate when the goals aren’t clear or the goals appear impossible.
- I’m not the most observant, but I subconsciously associate all my observations with all possible aspects of meaning.
- Most of my insights come through teaching others, which I love to do when people care to learn.
- I do my utmost to learn from consequences, and tend to leave the past behind afterward.
- I insist others around me should become their best possible self. I dislike and distance from people who settle for less than they’re capable.
- I’ve worked intimately with technology since I was 7 years old, and have scaled my skills with it. My natural element is with and in a computer.
- To the degree I can control my habits, I’m constantly trying to improve them. I’m always either maximizing my environment for efficiency or finding ways to automate tasks.
What I value
- I value openness, a positive attitude, integrity, curiosity, and focus.
- I want people to stand by their convictions to the degree they believe them.
- I expect associates to value open and healthy communication as much as me, and demand they stay reasonably open to “third options”.
- I insist absolutely everyone stays humble enough to accept utter failure. I also expect others to approach me about my failings first. If other people can’t do their own investigation about my character, I tend to find a new community.
- I believe relational secrets are detrimental to group cohesion, and want everyone (including myself) to admit failures and move on. I also have no time for people who condemn those who tried. We’re all sinners, so get over yourself.
- I believe why we succeed is more important than what we do. Wach thing widely connects with everything else, but not always directly, and my views are that success comes through balancing work, rest, recreation, energy, and spirituality.
- My personal spirituality is toward Jesus Christ, but reserve that discussion for its time and place. I have severe issues with the narcissists who have infiltrated mainstream Christian culture. I’m happy to talk about it, but I probably disagree strongly and pedantically.
What I have no patience for
- To me, thoughts without humility are the most dangerous thing in existence. They lead to false presumptions and deviate over time from truth. Some people are more correct than others, but reductionism to win an argument is foolishness.
- I believe elaborate explanations, especially jargon-laden, cloud the truth, and it’s dangerous in the wrong time and place. I don’t respect people who can’t say they simply don’t know.
- I see vagueness, running from ideas, ignoring painful things, and unexplained distrust as misplaced fear. While fear can help detect risks, rational decision-making takes courage, and I see all cowardice as an inherent risk.
- I despise bigotry (disrespecting people for what they can’t control). Nobody chose their origins, and they made decisions with it, and are reaping consequences. Adding shame and resentment to someone else’s problems is almost always unnecessary.
- I despise entitlement (venerating oneself for what they can’t control). You owe others more than whatever others owe you. God made you, your guardian(s) raised you, your teachers invested in you, your nation gave you an identity, your friends gave you connection, and your complaints are opportunities to find meaning. Stand exclusively on your earned authority and learn your place.
How to best communicate with me
- Trust me more than I look. 99.9% of the time I have noble intentions, obscured by a bristly personality and some high-functioning autism. I’m usually oblivious to high-context social behavior, but I was exposed to perpetual narcissism as a child. My rejection-sensitive dysphoria can sense when someone is withholding or manufacturing information.
- I’m very low-context, and don’t follow implications. I often feel confused, but rarely offended. I’m also more likely to offend. Give me straightforward information about any offense, preferably simply.
- Come to me with more than a problem. I love the brainstorming, and have the skills to process all the information you’re sharing. Give me theories why that issue exists, its origination, resources that could help, and anything you feel may be relevant. Discovering an issue is typically a solo experience, but solving it rarely is.
- I live in the world of ideas, but constantly associate it to practical implementations. To be sure I understand it, have examples ready to explain your high-concept thing.
How to help me
- I have a history of deeply analyzing everything, so materially irrelevant details sometimes discourage me. Remind me of the big picture if you feel I’ve veered off-topic.
- Inform me when I’m blunt or rude. I’m usually unaware and will promptly change it.
- Be honest and open with me. I can take your direct statements, but I am unable to work with your silence.
What people misunderstand about me
- One of my favorite axioms is “slow is smooth, smooth is steady, steady is fast.” I will do very little for a time, then get decent at something, then do something that may appear reckless. It’s not reckless: I’m just a fast learner.
- For some reason, I have always had an incessant awareness of the impending death that awaits us all. I’m no longer anxious about it, but it still permeates through my work and presence. The natural results of that perspective is that I’ll see everyone’s feelings and problems as petty (myself included).
- I’m an introvert who sometimes looks like an extrovert. Give me a few minutes to realign, and I’ll respond fully.
- I tend to have an optimistic and encouraging mindset, but I often frame it negatively. My attitude is usually “it could be much worse”. My affirmations tend to be “you’re not as bad as other things”.
- To understand perspectives, I emotionally identify with them, so judging my feelings is misreading my actual opinions. My mind and body often run on different wavelengths. Beyond the current topic, I have 2-5 other thoughts competing for my attention. My response to you may not be related to you at all.
- I speak with conviction, but my views are typically fluid. If you give me facts that prove me wrong, I’ll promptly change my views.
- I’m great at fixing problems and crises, but not very skilled at emotionally handling change. Therefore, I look constantly miserable when I’m doing fine.